I find I have a bit of cultural arrogance. I am not of Thai descent. And I have only been here in Thailand for 3 months. Still, I guess because I am having such a wonderful time here, and the people for the most part have a beautiful spirit and have embraced me as one of their own, I feel, much like America is my home, and England is my home, Thailand is my home. After three days in Laos, when I did finally return and cross the border, and all the papers had been checked, and there were no more men in uniforms stamping documents, and I could get into a Thai taxi and go to the airport, I said to my travel companion, doesn’t this feel good? Thailand opens my heart.

I arrived in Laos, and assumed that everyone there spoke Thai. Since I have learned a bit of Thai, I was sharing my Thai speak with quite a few Laotians. Finally one of them, a woman running a BBQ salted fish stand, told me that there are differences. Kob Kuhn Krab, which means thank you in Thailand, does not mean the same thing in Laos. She seemed a bit irritated that I had made such an arrogant assumption. She taught me the Laotian version of thank you, which sounds like Kob Jay.

While this might seems like a little thing, it got me to thinking about how much I think I know, and because of that arrogance, I miss much of what is really going on. I have a challenging time remaining in what Zen books refer to as beginner’s mind. There is an openness and receptivity that maximizes my life experience. When I stop thinking I know everything about everything, life works much better. When I can see each person, and each experience, as a teacher, life starts to flow, and magic returns to my life.

The flip side of this is that when I think I know all, life becomes predictable, life lacks spontaneity, and magic disappears. I see people who are smug, who have seen quite a bit of life, been there and done that, and they are not people I want to be around. They like to speak, and not to listen. They speak with self-proclaimed authority rather than with generosity and magnanimity. Their life appears to be a clenched fist rather than an open hand. Going to Laos reminded me I don’t want to be that guy. Thank you Laotian BBQ salted fish lady for reminding me that I can still be an arrogant American jerk from time to time.

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